In honor of Day of Pink - a day of action to combat bullying and discrimination, we want to bring a spotlight on preschool bullying. Regardless of how old your child is they may go through some form of bullying throughout their schooling and it may just start as early as their preschool years. So what are some of the signs to find out weather you child is a target? Keep Reading.
1. The first clue that you child is being bullied is when your child says “I hate so and so” or “I don’t want to play with so and so.” Be sure to find out why your child is complaining about another child and don’t be scared to inquire further. Before age 3, kids don’t have the cognitive ability to feel empathy, says Brenda Nixon, a mom, former preschool teacher, and author of The Birth to Five Book. So a child might hurt another kid emotionally or physically, but he doesn’t really get how that feels to his playmate.”
2. Often you may notice that your child is withdrawn and is irritable or cries more often then normal. Bullying can cause lifelong psychological effects including low self esteem and depression, something your child shouldn’t have to deal with so early on.
3. Your child doesn’t want to go to school or daycare. Some children are so highly effected by bullying that they choose to avoid education and contact with other children to avoid the feeling of being left out. This can effect them in later years, especially during elementary and middle school where the social stresses for “fitting in” are tougher
4. A noticeable drop in your child’s academic performance. Social and emotional competence of a young child determines their academic performance in school. Young children who are anti-social tend to be provided with less instruction and less positive feedback from instructors and peers and are less likely to like school, which means they learn less and will attend school less.
5. In extreme cases bullied children tend to display rebellious and/or suicidal behavior. If your child is constantly disrespectful, refuses to listen or is throwing temper tantrums there may be an underlying issue. Bullied children often tend to act rebelliously to feel as they are in control or “bigger and stronger” at home when they feel “little and weak” outside of home.